"Sometimes people use 'respect' to mean 'treating someone like a person' and sometimes they use 'respect' to mean 'treat someone like an authority'. And sometimes people who are used to be treated like an authority say 'if you won't respect me I won't respect you' and they mean 'if you won't treat me like an authority I won't treat you like a person'. And they think they're being fair but they aren't, and it's not okay."